EQ. Pt. 2

Welcome to the Leadership Sovereignty Podcast. I'm your host Ralph Owens along with Terry Baylor. In today's episode, we'll touch on topics such as the power of emotional self awareness, how each emotion has its own tendency to act, the impact of what you're digesting daily, and the power of self regulation. Enjoy the show. That's good stuff.

So let's talk about the key components of emotional intelligence. Number one is self awareness. That is recognizing and understanding your own emotions, strengths, weaknesses, and triggers. There I mean, we could we could talk about that for a year by itself. Self awareness of your own emotions and understanding your strengths, weaknesses, and triggers.

How much time have you taken to really inventory your own emotions to figure out, okay, these are the things that I'm strong at emotionally. These are the things that I'm weak at emotionally. And these are the triggers. When that person talks to me and their lip quivers that just it it reminds me of, you know, my granddaddy when he did this to me. Right?

You know? And it makes me respond a certain way. How how much how many times have we taken inventory, of those those those pieces of our emotions that are strengths, weaknesses and triggers. I mean, any any thoughts on that, Ter?

So so yeah, I'm I'm reading this right here. Right? And this is the this is this is a sentence. I make sure I I said this. So so they talk about what the root of the word of emotion.

And I'm just gonna read this real quick, make sure I'm positioned right on my mic here. But it says, the very root of the word emotion is motere, motere, m o t e r e. The Latin verb is to move plus the prefix e to connotate move away. So suggesting that a tendency to act is implicit in every emotion. In every emotion it's implicit to act.

That's powerful.

Every emotion wants to do something. So to your point Ralph, you got to understand what your tendencies are.

What

do you want to act on and how do you wanna act on it?

That's good. That's really good.

You know, I mean just thinking about that, right? Everything that you feel there wants to be a response. Yeah. And so again, it plays into what are you digesting? Just gonna, it's hard to get away from the Bible.

Out of the abundance of the heart.

That's it. That's it.

All all your languages come was so again, what are you practicing? What are you taking in?

That's right. That's right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. When, people say, oh, they made me do it, you know, they they they got me upset and they made me do it. No. No. If it came out your mouth, it was in your heart long before that conversation ever started.

But we we're not even gonna go there. The next, key component of emotional intelligence is self regulation. So first you become aware of your own emotional strengths, weaknesses and triggers and then it's about managing those emotions effectively especially in stressful situations. What comes to mind when you hear that Terry?

So, know it's funny, I'm reading this book and they give you all these scientific things and I think it's important to understand, we talk about data and I think it's really important. This is a fascinating fact. Right? So for you all who are little hot tempered, a be transparent, I used to be one of them guys, people meet me, they be like, you? Man, you know, it is, I can say with like true, true, true sincerity and I don't even really know, Ralph, you and I talked about this recently.

I really don't even know where that piece of who I was, where it really started. I don't know, I don't know, I stuttered as a kid, maybe that has something to I don't know. But I was the sixth or seventh boys, but it wasn't a situation where I felt like I was picked on or anything like that. I went to the boys club every day, I don't know. I don't know.

But anyway, I just had a thing where, look man, if I said stop and you didn't, again, we're talking teenager years. And so I will say this, let me share this story. One of the big things that helped me control my temperament was golf. And so man, I have to admit, I've thrown a few clubs in my day.

Right, right.

But I remember reading this story, man, and it changed my life, it did. I remember reading the story, a guy had gotten so mad, he pounded his golf club on the ground and he had a graphite shaft, I believe that, I think the story said. That shaft snapped and hurled back, man, and hit that guy in his chest and punctured his heart and the guy didn't make it. And I told myself that time, right? Because I've pounded some clubs on the ground at the time and I'm like, you know what, my level of competition and desire to be good and to win is not worth this, it's not worth that price.

And so I started approaching that game differently. One of the things it helped me do, it helped me to predetermine what the outcome I wanted. And so one of the things, it really helped me develop my skillset to visualize. So before I got to the shot, I would see what I wanted to do. It also helped me develop a life language that, and I'll be, this really astounded me be totally honest with you.

And I was speaking with someone the other day and I shared this with them, I said look, let me share something with you, we're most like God when we are creating.

That's so good.

We are most like God when we are creating because he made us in his image. I need to find the scripture, it's in the old testament where it talks about we are little gods. I don't want to get too far off but there's a host of power that you have. So anyway, again, as I began to reframe my thought around golf and how I played it, there would be times I'd be in pressure situations and as I'm walking to the shot, I would say, Terry Baylor, you're gonna make this shot. You're gonna make this shot.

You are gonna make this shot. And man, I don't remember a time where I didn't make it when I took the time because I'm walking, we're getting up to the ball and I'm telling. And so there was power in my words, right? And so just like the earth was created, it all began with our speech or it all began, sorry, with God's speech, but in that same way, if we want to start framing who we are, framing what we're gonna become, let's start, I think in my opinion, I think emotional EQ starts with what you say about yourself.

Yeah.

Who who are you gonna be?

That's right. The story you tell yourself is so powerful. Yeah. Yeah. So so so first two components, self awareness and self regulation.

The ability to manage your emotions, especially during a stressful situation.

Yeah. And so so so Ralph, let me let me tie two to two more things on that. I think I talked about the data. There's a section in this book where it talks about, and so I was talking about those who get a little hot under the collar. This scientific study says when you get angry, blood flows to your hands.

Interesting.

Basically what they were saying is it makes it easy for you to strike. Right? Mean, they're basing this down to the most primal aspects, right? So to understand how the human body well, here's the other thing they say. When we there's fear, blood flows to the large skeletal muscles such as the legs, right?

Which may make it easier to flee. So basically what they're talking about is understanding what happens in our bodies when we're feeling these certain kind of ways, right? I think understanding that is important. And I'm gonna leave on this last one. It says among the main changes that happen in the body, when you're happy is an increase of activity in the brain and it inhibits negative feelings when you're happy.

Wow.

I mean, understanding that, right? So if you know some of these things, what are you gonna let into your life? Again, we're watching this stuff, man, in a week's time we probably didn't watch 100 murders.

Right, right. Yeah. They didn't see it subconsciously.

Yeah, and subconsciously we don't know what it's doing in our lives. So again, that's just a little data, right? To understand how physiologically your body wants to respond. I'm sorry, go ahead Ralph.

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