TED recap. Pt. 2

Welcome to Leadership Sovereignty. I'm your host Terry Baylor along with Ralph Owens. Today we'll answer questions why hearing myself confess my destiny is important. Is there anything wasted in my journey? Why serving my gift to the world is important and why knowing who I am and why I was created.

Enjoy the show. See again, guys look, I'm gonna share some of more of my secrets. So man, I record my daily confessions. So not only do I hear myself saying them on the recording, but I hear myself repeating them after I've said it on the recording. I want double.

Yes. And so there is something extremely powerful about what you hear. And again, we've all heard this. That's why we know all the nursery rhymes from when we were six and seven because we heard it over and over again. And you know what?

That thing, and Ralph, we're probably gonna dig into this a little bit on this, but when it got past our ear, it got past our intellect, it got way down with that guy who controls it all.

That's it. Yep.

The subconscious, right? Tap When into that guy, that is where what you hear and what you practice daily happens automatically. We are literally programming our responses. So again, in the fact that you find encouraging books, find or write yourself a confession or affirmation that reinforces to Ralph's point, you may not be there right now, but when you keep saying that, I heard some I was listening to a podcast yesterday for some encouragement and the person said, if you wanna see where you're gonna be in five years, take note to what you are saying.

Yeah. Right now.

Right now. You wanna see where you are in five years? Take note to what your Audible game is right now. What are you saying to others? What are you saying to yourself?

So again, right, what I want this show to be is look, man, I need a B3 up in here. This week gonna have a revival of Look, we are not going to live the way we have been.

I'm

talking to myself because there are some places where I wanna improve in. I'm not where I was last year, thank God. But you know what? I don't wanna be at this point a year from now because I understand what my gift is, I understand who my target audience is, and I am preparing and exercising, serving my gifts to the world. So and Ralph, yeah.

Know we want to move on to the next and and because here's the deal, right? We can move on to that person who is the persecutor, right?

Mhmm. Yeah. Yeah.

And let's really talk about that. Why why would someone really be a persecutor? Why? What's the why?

Well, number one is insecurity. They're insecure in the fact that they really don't have power so they wanna punish you first before you really find out that they really don't have the power. That's the number one drive driver of being the persecutor. Right? A persecutor must have a victim.

Victims and persecutors are synonymous with one another. Right? You can't have one without the other. They look to punish. They look to take the power from the victim.

Right? And typically because the underlying root is they're insecure themselves. So you ever heard of, you know, the way to to stop a bully is to stand up to them? Well, the bully's power comes from them scaring you so that you don't figure out the the the failure inside of them first. Right?

And and that's that's the persecutor. Right? They they look for a victim. They look to take that person's power. They look to punish that person.

And typically, it's because of their own insecurities. I mean, but what what what comes to mind for you too?

Man, it comes to mind. I was in the third grade. I was in no. You know what? I'm a I think I told yeah.

I was in the third grade and this guy, man, he would just every day after school, called him his name, we called him Sharky because his was messed up, man. They called it that. That wasn't right. That was not right. They called him Sharky.

And I remember, it's what's funny is you remember your moments when you are liberated. I'm hoping that this show today becomes a moment for somebody where they real you know what? That was the moment I came liberated. Right? I became free.

But I remember man, it was after school, was like, I think it was maybe close to one of the last days of school and I said, I'm tired of this dude picking on me. So I grew I'm a baseball player, that was my favorite sport man. I remember I saw one of them mama combs. Mama combs with the big thick handle on it, and I think they call them rakes. And it was on the ground.

I was like, I'm tired of this. He can't get close enough, I'm tagging him. I picked that thing up, man, he got close enough because come to say something. I will that thing, man, he hit him in his face. Bam, he's screaming.

Hey, I didn't have any more problems out of him. But here's what's funny, I realized in that moment, right? What about third grade, you what? Eight, nine years old, I think, 10. I realized I could have stopped this long ago.

I didn't have to go through this semester like this. Now granted, I'm not advocating. Right? What I'm advocating is taking a stance, right? So we're more mature now, We have a plethora of skills and tools that we've been handed down, but the principle of standing is a very important one.

Ralph, really wanna You really hit on something though, right, because you said this in the previous shows, we could serve in more than one of these roles. Oh, yeah. And so really I wanna deal with, man, we probably have been persecutor at as some form, some way somehow because of the point that you brought out, insecurity. We Man, look.

Go

ahead. No. Go ahead.

Yeah. We definitely it's it's not even probably, it's it's it's a definite and it may have happened in the same conversation. We move roles in the same conversation. You're the persecuted, now I'm the persecuted. Right?

But it's it's that, again, to your point, being aware self aware of how you're coming across to somebody else. Right? Because, again, you can't have a victim without a persecutor. And if a person is perceiving you as a persecutor, you really need to ask yourself, what's the what's the what's the reason behind that? Right?

You know, are you really trying to punish this person? Are you really trying to take the power from this person so that they remain powerless to make yourself feel good? That's all based on the insecurity. Because if you need to take someone else's power to make yourself feel good, then that means that you're deficient and you're insecure about what you what you have and what you don't have. Right?

But to your point, Terry, we can all be the victim and the persecutor all in the same conversation. If you have an argument with someone, at some point in that argument, you feel like you're the victim. And then at some point, they're gonna feel like they're the victim, which is probably what's driving the argument. Right? But it's very you have to be very careful to and and I think this is a foundational principle in personal development.

Terry and I always refer to the Jedi. We're talking about EQ. EQ Jedi is is a is a title that we kinda came up with. But one of the foundational principles behind EQ, emotional intelligence, is the ability to be aware of yourself and how you're coming across to other people and being able to change that. So that persecutor is a learned behavior sometimes.

Right? I mean, we can we can see throughout history where it's a learned behavior because a particular party wants to keep another party a victim so they can leverage them. Right? But, any any thoughts on that, Terry?

Yeah. Yeah. Again, man, my goal here is we not walking away from this show the same way we were, right? One aspect is we go give you some information but we also wanna empower you, man, so you can know who you are. And the best way that I know, man, that son that came to my mind, the best way I know, you can make it his son.

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Yeah, doll litters, can't sorry guys. Look, it's mixed in there, man.

Yeah.

Is you gotta understand how you were framed and why. And so again, I wanna empower you. I'm gonna read something to you. Psalm 13nine fourteen and sixteen. Right?

Look, look, look, the goal is today is we're gonna say some things and your intellect is gonna receive it. We wanted to get past that so it can get down into your soulless area so you can feel better. But most importantly, we want your subconscious to take hold of this and and chew on it over and over until it starts coming out. Basically what this says is I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful.

I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. So, man, look, there's some ideas that the creator has for you, you gotta know that. You can't walk around here with the ideas and we say this all the time. Look, if you don't have an idea for you, someone gonna give you one.

Don't have an identity, someone has one for you. You don't have a plan, oh, somebody's got a plan for your life. But here's the thing, man, God's got a plan for your life.

That's right.

So I don't want you to walk away from here feeling that you have to accomplish all of this by yourself. Look, Ralph and I knew this day was gonna be here. Yep. Ralph and I've been talking about this for about ten years.

Yep, absolutely.

We decided, man, let's just set up. We go do one.

Yeah. Yep.

Now we are some 30 shows down the road. But we have been saying this over and over, we have been speaking it out because we understood this is one of the things that God created us for. So because we know that, we know that like we're not shy about doing this, we're not uncomfortable with doing this. Not only that, we've been giving a plethora of life experiences, those that were challenges and those that were where we experienced success. Because of the plan, God ordained all the right people to bring about this success.

Here's the deal secret. Some of those right people are gonna be the people that challenge you and help you grow.

Some

of those situations that are formed, Ralph, you and I talked about this. Do you think Joseph when he was on the second man in charge in Egypt, he was saying, man, I can't believe I got thrown in that pit. He wasn't thinking about that pit. He was, he was like, man, you know what? I learned that no matter what, God's plans are true.

That's it.

When he thinks about that. He wasn't looking at himself as a victim in that situation.

No.

When he was in the prison, when he goes back and thinks on that, don't think he was thinking, man, I can't believe I'm giving guys interpretations and I'm sitting up in here.

No. No. He keep thanking God for using every situation.

You see what I'm saying? You see what I'm saying? Guys, there's nothing wasted. It's nothing wasted. We have to understand what our purpose is.

And I wanna encourage you, understand it's not there to defeat you.

That's right.

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