The Empowerment Dynamic. Pt.4

Welcome to Leadership Sovereignty. I'm your host Terry Baylor along with Ralph Owens. Today we'll answer questions about tapping into the father's creator persona, limiting thoughts versus the ability to create

I I think about this in in this stage of my life, you know, thinking about my relationship with God and how he feels about me and how I want him to feel about me. It's very similar to when you see a man sees his son start to come into his own. And you see your son start to do some phenomenal things and the pride that you get in saying, oh, that's that's my boy right there. That's mine right there. You see what he doing?

That's mine right there. That's how I wanna make him feel about me. And I don't wanna limit my life to these small thoughts when he's given me the ability to create big. Right? So creator, it is essentially the game changer in your thinking.

Right? That allows you to become whatever you wanna be. And and here's a thought that that the bible says, I believe Jesus said this, he said, anything is possible to him that believes.

Oh yeah, that's right. Yeah, you got his first thought there.

Anything. Anything. Anything is possible.

Yeah, somebody believed that we could fly.

That's right, even when we were riding horses. You know what kind of belief that has to be? To see something that has never been done before. But you have the ability to create and it starts with your belief.

So Ralph, I came across this in the book and I just want to share this and I think it's one of those liberating things. Living life from a creator orientation is bound to be a wonderful change. This is the crux of it compared to what I've grown used to.

Wow. Wow.

Right, there are some habits, man, that we have that just haven't promoted that we're creators. And I'll give you a simple one. I'll give you a simple one. Now granted, I admit as a parent, I had to learn how to manage through it because when I was being parented, this was a philosophy that I wasn't raised with. But I'll give you a simple creators, I'll say process or mechanism.

If you have small kids, I would advise you to take the challenge, be mature enough to handle it. But one of the things that I share with my kids, granted, again, we have to be adult enough to be able to manage it as they get older. But I told my kids, look, you can say whatever you wanna say. You can ask me whatever you wanna ask. There are two prerequisites.

You can ask any question. There are two prerequisites. One, it has to be done in honor. Has to be done in honor. And two, you have to understand that your parents have the ultimate say.

Yeah, that's good.

But you can say, you can articulate what any idea, even if it's in opposition of what my ideal is. Because growing up with the ideology of being seen and not heard, it is a creator killer.

Yep, sure is.

It's the creator killer. Now granted, when they get 15 to 16, you gonna have to really be mature. I've just let you know. Because here's what I learned. Man, we cannot alter and this goes for us as adults.

We cannot, because we're going through different phases, the growth and development of a human being, you can't alter that. And I had the privilege, I guess it's the privilege of having stair steppers two years apart. And I would tell my wife, oh, here it comes, I can see it. That stage, is that stage.

Yeah.

There's a 12 year old stage. Okay. There's a 15 and 16 year old stage. Yep. There's a 17 and 18 year old stage.

There's a twenty twenty to 23 year old stage. Well, here's a hey guys, knock knock knock. There's a 40 year old stage.

That's right.

There's a 50 year old Because it is called the development of a human being. We evolve. Sometimes wisdom does that, sometimes age does that. Experiences do that. That's why 40 year old somethings are all gonna do the same thing.

50 year old somethings, they're all going, why? Because it's a stage of life. But if you learn how to create early, when you hit those thirties and those challenges, you can start to create. When you hit those forties and it's gonna happen, you can create. But it's understanding that under And I'll be transparent, I'm five to six years into this really just really maybe seven saying that, you know what, I gotta take control of this.

Yes. And just to bring it back to the practical side of the conversation, right? You're gonna get some things thrown at you at work. Yep. You can either choose to be a victim.

Yep. Or you choose to take that and put your use your own self power and create the outcome that you want. I used to tell my son, when he was learning how to play basketball, we were I think we were talking about free throws. I think you said something similar, Terry. You have to tell yourself you never lose.

That is the mentality you have to have. I either win, I make the shot or I learn something and I get better but I never lose.

Yes, yes.

Right? Yes. Right? It is, you know so so let's take that analogy about shooting a free throw. You missed a free throw.

You can say the wind blew the ball, your mind was distracted becoming a victim, making the wind or your mind the persecutor. Or you could say, you know what? What I did is I learned how not to shoot the

bomb. Mhmm. Mhmm.

That's taking your own self power. Right? Using it with the, situation that's presented to you and then making the outcome that you want to happen. So the next time you make the shine. But I think it's very important that we talk about practical ways of using that mentality.

Yes.

On a day to day basis. Yes,

yeah, no, I totally agree with it. Because Ralph, I love the analogy or the other, not the analogy but the principle of win, never lose or learn. Because ultimately every single thing that you do every day is not gonna give you the desired outcome that you Although you've done all the preparation, you did all the work, sometimes it just doesn't go the right way. Well, the benefit of that is what do I take away from that that I can apply the next time? Because I didn't lose, I learned.

I learned from that experience. I learned from going through that difficult moment or not only that, I learned from winning. So in the winning, I learned that, okay, these are the ways I need to communicate. These are the types of people I need to continue to try to have in my circle. Because even with a win, there are some things that may didn't hit on all cylinders.

But there's an opportunity at the end of the day, growth. And that's really all that we're all looking for. Is to grow every day, is to become good communicators, become problem solvers, right? Become the individuals that when a solution is needed, be the individuals that when winning people need to be pulled together, folks with good attitudes, folks with the proper mindset, we wanna be associated with that group of people. Ralph, because you say this all the time.

People wanna do business with people they like.

Like, know and trust all day, every day. Like, know and trust.

And so if we're operating right and we see this dreaded triangle occurring, we can decide, okay, you know what? Let me be a creator.

Yes. It's a very empowering thought that I have the choice to not be a victim and I can create something out of this situation that leads me to a desired end that I want to be at.

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