The mid-year check in. Pt. 8

Welcome, and thank you for tuning into the Leadership Sovereignty Podcast. I'm your host, Ralph Owens along with Terry Baylor. In today's episode, we'll cover topics such as, have you established your personal board of directors, the power of establishing relationships, how meeting with your mentors regularly is crucial to your success, and which voice are you listening to. Enjoy the show. Okay.

So we'll transition to the next topic, which is have you established the personal board of directors? Right. So we we talked about this earlier, in the broadcast. The personal board of directors are the individuals that you have in your life that, simulate a board of directors for a company, but they're the board of directors for your career and your life. These people have results and credibility.

They've already achieved what you want to achieve. They don't have to know each other. Matter of fact, it's best if they don't know each other. Because you wanna get perspectives from successful individuals. People who've done it the right way that you respect and you honor.

And you ask them, hey, I would like to add you to my personal board of directors, you know, are you willing to do that? And you, talk to them on a regular basis about what's going on in your life and to allow them to speak into your life, you know, hey, you know what, you're doing this, but I think you should go that direction. Things of that nature based on their success that they've already had. But, what are your thoughts about that tier?

Invaluable. Invaluable. It's a difference maker. There there are certain rooms that I've been able to be in, not physically, but information wise. I'm in that room because this mentor is sharing this information with me.

I've heard it said this way, you can get coaching and it can take years. Let me say it this way. You can learn in an hour, but it'll take you three years to learn.

Yeah, on your own.

With a coach. On your own. It's just that simple. And I've experienced it personally. Because someone shared an ideal concept, story, lesson, experience that they've had with me, I now do not have to go down that path.

Let me give a prime example. It's a real life example. So I'm with my son and because you guys know I'm always doing the sports thing. So anyway, we're at a camp and he does well. Coming out of the camp, the coach was like, Hey, I like you, whatever, blah, blah, blah.

Can you send me film? Told them, Terrence, when I was in high school, I got letters from Oklahoma State to come to a baseball camp. In my mind, I thought, Oh, okay, they know who I am. They sent me a letter. I just thought it was enough that they knew who I was.

So I never went to the camp. Little did I know you got to go to the camp because you know what that does? The thing that we've been talking about earlier, it allows you to establish the relationship.

You got you.

I didn't know. So fast forward, that gosh, that was 40 ago, I guess. Now, because I do know, my son got a letter, an email, I take him to the camp. He established a relationship with the coach. The coach is like hey I liked watching you play.

Is your AAU team gonna be in this area? Send me your schedule, send me film. I said, so I said, Tee, you on the radar, bro.

You

a one percenter. You came here and did what you was supposed do. But again, if let's say I'm still operating on the old information, man, they sent you a letter, they know who you are.

Right, right. And just a shameless plug for Terry. And I tell him this all the time. So Terry has figured out how to give your children, your athletic children, a better opportunity at getting a scholarship. What it took to get that done twenty years ago, twenty, thirty years ago when we went to high school, is completely different, today.

Right? And it'll be completely different in another twenty or thirty years. But right now he has the blueprint. He has the results. He's already gotten his daughter full ride.

That's division one too. That's division one, right? Yeah. Division one school, right? Terry has the blueprint and he's putting it together.

I keep telling him all the time, when you gonna drop your book?

I need to, man. It's close. It's close. It's close, no, you're saying. No, but you're right though.

It is what you somebody can give you information that changes your life faster than it would if you went at it alone. Yeah. Ralph, know you've experienced the same thing.

Oh yeah, no, absolutely man. So many things that have happened to me in my life, excuse me, that were because of what someone else told me. Right? It got to the point to where I started seeking the knowledge because I'm like, this is a shortcut. Why am I banging my head trying to figure this thing out when there is wisdom and knowledge right there available to me and all I gotta do is ask for So I you know, my natural inclination now is to ask.

It's not to try to figure it out on my own. And because I'm about getting results, I'm not about proving that I'm the smartest guy in the room. Right? Who what does it matter if you got the information you needed from someone else versus you figured it out? The only thing that keeps you stuck in that is pride.

I don't have a problem with pride.

No, No, sir. No, that's good stuff, Ralph. I appreciate you sharing that. That is, man, that's good. That's just good.

Yeah, and the final point was you have your board of directors. Your board of directors may not be somebody that you talk to every day or every week or even every month. It may be a once a quarter thing. I think I mentioned before that I have a person on my board of directors that I probably speak with once or twice a year. She's an acclaimed author, has written movies, Right?

All of these different things. Her time is very, very valuable. And I'm very appreciative of any time I get a chance to get any of that time. So, you know, I don't talk to her very often. But the last point is, you know, are you meeting with your mentors?

Now your mentor is someone, if we go back to the creator, challenger and coach, that's the coach. That's the person that you meet with on a regular basis that's gonna push you to use the power that you have inside of you to become great, right? That you allow to speak into your life. Are you meeting with your mentors on a regular basis? Right?

That's critical for your success. This is not optional. Right? And if you don't have mentors, I can see you saying, well, I don't need that. No, I think you do.

Right? And you don't understand the power in it until you actually partake of it. And then you see, like Terry said, they say something that saves you six months or three years. All because you took the time to listen and not just listen but to apply. Terry, are your thoughts on that?

Hey, man, I'm all about coaching. I'm all about coaching. I had one of my best friends who I grew up with since like 10 and he affectionately tells me that. He said, Terence, man, you're just a coach. And I'll say this, being a preacher's kid, essentially that's really what a preacher is, a pastor is a coach for folks.

And I've seen my dad help so many people, give them an assist and aid and take the shirt off his back, take the food off his table to a certain degree. I've had to learn how to create some boundaries in that area to be quite honest with you. Because there is a balance to all of that. But if you have someone who's willing to spend their time with you on a consistent basis that you value. And to Ralph's earlier point, you've seen the fruit in their life.

You got to see some fruit, It's not optional. I tell people all the time. I don't have a gift of discernment really like that. I said, but what he did give me was a tree and I'm gonna look at the tree. Let me see what's being grown here.

I'm me

You cannot say enough about that piece right there. If you just put a pin in that right there for a second, you cannot say enough about that. Especially for the younger generation who like to just go off the word of somebody who has no results. Right? Take it all the way back to the bible.

The tree is gonna bear fruit. If it's not bearing fruit, then don't trust the tree. Maybe we need to rephrase it that way. If the tree is not bearing fruit, then don't trust the tree. You're right.

You're right. My kids had a coach that said it this way and I love it. Ways, actions and attitude.

That's good.

Look, watch their ways, their actions and their attitude. That's the fruit.

The great, great call out. They can't be a mentor if they don't have, fruit. They don't already have, results. So you really have to question, who are you listening to? Are you listening to someone who doesn't have results?

I think

the Bible has a word for that. It's called a fool. You listen to, I'm not saying that you shouldn't have friends and colleagues and things of that nature. You have to have that. But if you're listening to someone who's a friend who has no results in their life, you can expect to get the exact same thing that they have if you listen to them.

Yep, yep. What you keep in front of you, man, that's what you're heading towards. We dealt with that in the last segment. It's important. And it's, Ralph, I want to hit on that a little bit too about who are you listening to?

Because here's the deal, sometimes there's this voice, this internal voice that has been speaking a certain way for so long and it hasn't been renewed. It hasn't become a new creature yet. It's a voice of negativity and lack. It's a voice of disappointment. Look, there's a reason why I bought the book Speak the Blessing.

Because I want to take in things that are going to tune my internal voice.

Yes, that's good.

I wanna tune. There's a reason why I have my boys reading the I Declare book. And here's the deal. I didn't go buy that. I pulled that off the shelf, two copies.

We have to tune. We gotta tune our internal voice, man.

That's so good. That's so good. What station are you listening to?

What station are you listening to? That's too good. Because here's the deal, life's happened, disappointment has happened. Sometimes things that we had no control over. We just happened to be a part of a situation that look, ask for the family I was born into.

That's right. And it doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is where you're going. Because that's in your control.

Exactly. Yeah. So let's tune that internal voice, man. And we're gonna reference some books that I'm gonna throw a book out there. Joseph Prince, I read it.

Believing, right thinking leaves the right believing. Man, there are some things that we just need to recalibrate on. Understand that, hey, you are loved, you are valued. You're not put in this race honestly to be a mule. You're not putting this race to do that.

No, you're putting this race to succeed. You're putting this race to be a king. You're putting this race to be a queen.

To

influence your world.

Yes, that's right, your assignment.

We've talked about that, your purpose. When you understand what your purpose is, it changes everything.

It's key. Save you a lot of time too.

Save you a lot of time. So anyway, don't wanna get too far off, Hey, mid year, right? This is June 2024.

Yes. Let's make the second half better than the first half.

Let's make the second half half better better than Yes, sir.

That's it. That's it. All right. So we've covered all the topics. So we are signing off until the next time.

Stay blessed.

God bless.

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